Obeying your parents

Ephesians 6:1–4 NASB95

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do.

Story of a near drowning

My parents and their six children, including myself, lived in Flintville, Wisconsin, near the Suamico River and Pond, where a great number of logs had been floated in for lumber. On the opposite side from us were woods, where wintergreen berries were plentiful. One pleasant Sunday morning in October, 1857, one of our playmates came to ask mother if we—my older sister, a younger brother, and I—might go with her to pick some of these berries.

Mother said we might go if we would go down the river and cross the bridge. She knew that we had crossed the pond several times on the logs, but the water was unusually high for that time of the year, and there was danger in crossing that way. We promised to cross by the bridge, really intending when we left home to do so. Mother let my two younger sisters, one four and the other six years old, go with us.

We left the house as happy as could be. My mother smiled as she stood in the door and watched us go. She had always trusted us, and we seldom disobeyed her. But this time we had our playmate with us, and the had been in the habit of having her own way. As she was a little older than we were, we thought that what she said or did was all right.

We had gone but a short distance when this girl, whose name was Louise, suggested that we run across the logs, and get to the berries so much the sooner. We reminded her of what our mother had told us; but she said, “Your mother does not know how snug the logs are piled in, and that it would be such fun, and no danger, to cross on them.”

We began to look at the matter in the same way, and after playing a few minutes, we started across. I took one of my little sisters, and Louise was going to take the younger one; but, as she was about to start, her brother, whom she had not seen for some time, drove up and took her home with him. My brother, thinking he could take our little sister across, started with her, but I called to him to go back and wait for me to do it; for I was then about half-way over. The stream was not wide, and he thought he could take her over as well as I.

Just as I started back, oh, what a sight met my eyes! I saw my little sister slip off the log into the water. I ran to catch her, but was not quick enough. As I reached for her, my brother and I both rolled from the log into the water with her. Then my sister, who had been standing on the bank to see if we got over safely, came to our rescue; but we were so frightened that we caught hold of her, and, instead of her pulling us out, we pulled her in with us.

By that time our screams had reached our mother’s ears, and she came running to see what the trouble was. She saw only one of us, as the others were under water, or nearly so, and, supposing there was only one in the water, she came on the logs to help. By the time she got to us, the logs were under motion, so that she could not stand on them; and she, too, fell into the water.

The six-year-old sister, whom I had taken across, saw it all and made an attempt to come to us. Mother called to her to go back. She turned back, and reached the shore all right. Just as mother spoke, she felt something come against her feet. She raised her foot with the weight, and caught the dress of little Emeline, who was sinking for the last time. Mother managed to hold her till help came.

It being Sunday, nearly every man that lived near was away from home. Fortunately, a Mr. Flint, who had company visiting him, was at home. The men were eating their dinner when a woman who had seen us in the water rushed into the dining room and told them that Mr. Tripp’s family were in the mill pond drowning. They rushed from the table, tipping it over and breaking some dishes.

When they reached us, the logs and water were so disturbed that nothing could be done for us until boards were brought to lay on the logs. During this time I had caught hold of a log that was crowded between others, so I could pull myself up without rolling, but could get no farther. My sister Sarah and brother Willard were helped ashore. Emeline, whom mother had been trying hard to hold up, was taken out, but showed no signs of life. She was laid on a log while they helped mother out.

As soon as mother saw Emeline, she told the men to turn her on her stomach. They then saw that there was life. She was quickly taken to the house, and cared for by an old lady we called Aunt Betsey, who had come to help.

While taking mother to shore, the nine men who had come to our rescue fell into the water. They all had to walk on the same long board to get to shore. The boards having been placed so very quickly, it was not noticed, until too late, that one was unsafe. The men were near enough to shore where they fell in, so that they could touch bottom, and were not long in getting out.

Mother had to be taken home, where she was cared for by the best help we could procure. It was impossible to get a doctor where we lived in those days. Little Emeline and mother were watched over all night, and at sunrise the next morning they were pronounced out of danger.

The men who fell in got off with only an unpleasant wetting. The water was quite cold; the pond froze over the following night. They did not start for home that day, as they were intending to do, but spent the rest of the day drying their clothing.

About noon our father, who had been away for three days, came home. When he heard the story of our disaster, he wept, and thanked God for sparing our lives.

All this happened because we did not obey our mother; and we children never forgot the lesson.

Children Do What You’re Told its important its not because they hate you or dont want you to have fun its because they care about you

 Obeying your parents

• They have been placed in authority by God

• Obedience acknowledge their role

• Obedience follows through with action

• Done out of love for God and for parents

 Respect • Respecting your parent shows respect to God

Honoring Mom and Dad

 Honor

• Demonstrates love & respect

• Requires action

Honoring Mom and Dad

 Honor

• Demonstrates love & respect • Requires action

 One of God’s top ten

Exodus 20:12 NASB95

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the Lord your God gives you.

• The first command dealing with interpersonal relationships

Ephesians 6:4 (NLT)

And now a word to you fathers. Don’t make your children angry by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction approved by the Lord.

Advice for Fathers

 Proper training and instruction

Spare the Rod and Spoil the Child, This is not found in the bible written in 1600 by a englishman as a attempt to mock christianity

The scripture says

Proverbs 13:24 NIV

Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.

• Practical • Spiritual

 The see of resentment

• Leaves a lasting trail of damage • Gives a foothold to other issues of the heart

 Loving correction

• Not in anger • Seeks to improve not harm

What Does Your Family Look Like? Obedience: for all in our Bible stories – I Corinthians 10:11 in speaking of the Israelites, it says, “ Now these things happened to them as an example, and they were written for our instruction, upon whom the ends of the ages have come.”  In other words, events/stories from the Bible were written so that others coming later could learn from the consequences, experiences, and lessons that God used to teach the Israelites. Psalm 102:18 says, ” Let this be written for the generation to come, so that a people not yet created may praise the LORD.” Parable of the two sons:

Matt. 21:28-32 ““But what do you think? A man had two sons, and he came to the first and said, ‘Son, go work today in the vineyard.’ “And he answered, ‘I will not’; but afterward he regretted it and went. “The man came to the second and said the same thing; and he answered, ‘I will, sir’; but he did not go. “Which of the two did the will of his father?” They said, “The first.” Jesus said to them, “Truly I say to you that the tax collectors and prostitutes will get into the kingdom of God before you. “For John came to you in the way of righteousness and you did not believe him; but the tax collectors and prostitutes did believe him; and you, seeing this, did not even feel remorse afterward so as to believe him.” Obedience As Christians we are adopted Sons of God and this does bring with it responsibility. Obedience is essential for belonging to God’s family:

Matt.12:50 ““For whoever does the will of My Father who is in heaven, he is My brother and sister and mother.”” Religous words do not result from salvation but obedience.

Luke 6:46: Why do you call me Lord, Lord and do not the things which I say.

Matt.7.21: Not every one who says unto me Lord, Lord shall enter the Kingdom of Heaven but he who doeth the Will of my Father which is in heaven.

OBEDIENCE- Essential for a Christian Paradise Lost by disobedience: Gen.2:16 and 3:11 Obedience is the one condition of abiding in Paradise Obedience encompasses Faith, Humility and Love Blessed are those who do His (God’s) commandments. God requires us to obey. Matt. 7.24 Therefore whoever hears these sayings of mine and DOETH them, I will liken unto a wise man who built his house on a rock. Do we not want to build on the rock that Christ tells us to?

Disobedience

Jonah

Prov 3:12 “For whom the Lord loves He reproves, Even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.”

Luke 3:42-52 Key verse: 51 He submitted himself, the perfect Son of God to sinful parents. He could have said in his heart that as he was god he had no need to be obedient to lesser people. The Father had however given him into their authority and he was obedient. Should we not also be so obedient to those the Lord has set over us. ii) In baptism to the Father Luke 3: 21-22 Jesus being perfect did not NEED baptism. Yet he humbled himself to go through the process. Is it not beautiful for the Father to say: I am well pleased with you. The result of obedience. iii) In the Temptations of Luke 4: 5-8

In Ex. 20:3 God said: You shall have no other gods but me. Satan tempted Jesus to be disobedient to the Father. iv) In the Garden of Gethsemane

Luke 22:39-45: Key verse 42: Not my will but thine. Indeed we see in John 14:31: But that the world may know that i love the Father; and as the Father gave me the commandment, EVEN SO I DO. Let us consider the Parable of the Two Sons in Matt.21. in relation to Christ. Had Jesus not gone through with the Father’s will we would not be here today. II) Ananias in Acts 9: 11-18 Probably one of the most courageous acts of obedience in the book of Acts: God used Ananias’s obedience to complete the great apostle Paul’ conversion.