My behavior contradicts my desires to do good

Sabotaging My Marriage

Romans 7:20 TPT

20 So if my behavior contradicts my desires to do good, I must conclude that it’s not my true identity doing it, but the unwelcome intruder of sin hindering me from being who I really am.

Steps to Breaking Sabotaging Behaviors

Owning It

Psalm 32:5 GW

5 I made my sins known to you, and I did not cover up my guilt.  I decided to confess them to you, O Lord.  Then you forgave all my sins.  Selah 

Psalm 51:1–3 GW

1 Have pity on me, O God, in keeping with your mercy.  In keeping with your unlimited compassion, wipe out my rebellious acts.  2 Wash me thoroughly from my guilt,  and cleanse me from my sin.  3 I admit that I am rebellious.  My sin is always in front of me. 

2. Follow The Direction Of The Lord even if has to expose your pride.

John 8:36 GW

36 So if the Son sets you free, you will be absolutely free.

absolute freedom requires exposure

3. Become Accountable to Godly Spiritual Leadership

James 4:7 GW

7 So place yourselves under God’s authority. Resist the devil, and he will run away from you.

Hebrews 13:17 TPT

17 Obey your spiritual leaders and recognize their authority, for they keep watch over your soul without resting since they will have to give an account to God for their work. So it will benefit you when you make their work a pleasure and not a heavy burden.

4. Self Examinations

2 Corinthians 13:5 GW

5 Examine yourselves to see whether you are still in the Christian faith. Test yourselves! Don’t you recognize that you are people in whom Jesus Christ lives? Could it be that you’re failing the test?