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Offering

​ NIV84Hezekiah asked the priests and Levites about the heaps; and Azariah the chief priest, from the family of Zadok, answered, “Since the people began to bring their contributions to the temple of the Lord, we have had enough to eat and plenty to spare, because the Lord has blessed his people, and this great amount is left over.”

Notice what happens here:The People GiveThe Need Is MetGod Blesses The PeopleThe People Give MoreThere Is An Abundance

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A Father’s Blessing

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There is no role more powerful or influential in this world than being a father.

It is a huge responsibility.

How our fathers related to us often determines how well we are prepared to father our own children.

For some, that means they are well prepared to raise healthy, productive children.

For others, it means that ill-prepared for the most important job in the world.In our culture, there is a war against men, and especially against fathers.

We are demonized, criticized, ostracized, all while being desperately needed, wanted and searched for.Fathers- we need you.

You are probably the most influential force in this world for positive change.

Godly men who will affirm, approve and invest in future generations are in short supply but are the highest need of the day.Father’s- you alone have the unique ability to bless future generations.

You are uniquely appointed by God as the leader of your family, and have the incredible power to propel your children into their God-given destiny in ways no one else can.

Your children desperately need what only you can give, and by that I am referring to what Gary Smalley and John Trent call: The Blessing.Over the next few minutes, I want to describe the blessing to you, tell you how you can give the blessing to your children, and show you from scripture how you can receive the blessing yourself from God- even it you never received it from your family.The Blessing Can:Fight back against a Toxic cultureOpen a child’s heart to the gospelHeal past woundsWithout A Father’s BlessingBrian’s storyHis father was dyingFlew half way across the country to reconcileSat weeping, crying out, “Please say you love me.”All of his life Brian had sought his father’s blessing, but all of his life it seemed just out of his reach.Brian’s father was a career marine office.His father wanted Brian to follow in his footsteps.

Instilled discipline.Words of affection or tenderness were forbidden.Enrolled Brian in courses and sports that would best prepare him to become an officer.The day Brian enlisted was the happiest day of his father’s life.After a few weeks of being cited for attitude problems, disrespect and fighting with his instructor, Brian was discharged from the marines as incorrigible, as someone who could not be trained, corrected or reformed.Brian’s dismissal from the Marines was the deathblow to his relationship with his father.

He was no longer welcome in his father’s home and for years there was no contact between them.During those years, Brian suffered with feelings of inferiority and lacked self confidence.

Though quite intelligent, he worked at jobs far below his abilities.

Brian got engaged three times only to break the engagements just weeks before the weddings.

He could not believe a person could really love him.Through a godly mentor, Brian came to understand his need for his family’s blessing and his responsibility to deal honestly with his parents.

That is when the call came from his mom.His father was dying.

Brian hoped to talk things out with his father.

His father slipped into a coma hours before he arrived.Brian wept as he sat beside his father’s bed, crying “Dad, please wake up.”

His heartbreaking sobs echoed down the hospital corridors.

Brian longed to hear his father’s voice, to have his father’s approval, to receive his father’s love.

But it was not to be.

His father slipped from this life without ever regaining consciousness.

Nancy’s storyDaughter of an affluent family.Her mother was socialite and intended for her daughters to be also.

When she was young, her mother would dress her in fancy clothes and take her and her sister to the club.But unlike her mother and sister, Nancy was big boned and sturdy for a girl.

She was a tomboy that loved outdoor games, swinging on fences and animals of all kinds.Gradually her mom began to leave her at home and only take her sister to the clubs and social events, because she was not skinny enough or beautiful enough.

Her mom insisted she go on a strict diet to get her skinny enough for the cute clothes, but she struggled to stick to it.In the end her mother started leaving her at home because she said, “you don’t want to be embarrassed in front of the other children because of how you look.”Nancy went for counseling at the age of 30.

She struggled with feeling overweight and inferior.

Her husband loved her dearly, but she could not receive his love because she felt unlovable.Nancy had two daughers.

One was petite and beautiful.

The other was larger and big boned.

Her mother began to pamper the petite daughter while ignoring the larger.

This tore open old wounds from her childhood.Gradually Nancy began to grow impatient and resentful towards her younger daughter.She was angry at her mother and angry at God for not making her petite and beautiful.

She eventually stopped going to Church, Bible study or calling her Christian friends.Nancy’s relationship with her husband, her children and God were all being affected by not receiving the blessing.Have you ever felt like Brian or Nancy?

Have you ever felt like you wanted or needed the approval or acceptance of your parents but were not able to receive it?For Brian not receiving his father’s blessing prevented him from getting close to people and committing to relationships.For Nancy, it destroyed her most important relationships and prevented from receiving love from those closest to her or giving it to her daughter.

More than that, it prevented her from feeling that her Heavenly Father truly loved and accepted her.Not receiving the blessing:Drives some to workaholismOthers get mired in withdrawal and apathy and give up hope of ever truly being blessedLeaves them searching for the approval and blessing and acceptance they never received.This search for the blessing is not new.

It as old as humanity.

It is seen clearly in one particular Old Testament Story- the story of Jacob and Esau.

Let’s read it together this morning.

​ NIV84When Isaac was old and his eyes were so weak that he could no longer see, he called for Esau his older son and said to him, “My son.” “Here I am,” he answered.

Isaac said, “I am now an old man and don’t know the day of my death.

Now then, get your weapons—your quiver and bow—and go out to the open country to hunt some wild game for me.

Prepare me the kind of tasty food I like and bring it to me to eat, so that I may give you my blessing before I die.”

The story goes on to tell us that Rebekah hears Isaac’s words and devises a plan for Jacob to receive the blessing instead of Esau.

She quickly cooks a goat, covers Jacob with the skin and sends him into his father’s tent to feed him the food and receive his blessing before his brother Esau returns.

Let’s resume reading with vs. 18.

​ NIV84He went to his father and said, “My father.”

“Yes, my son,” he answered.

“Who is it?”

Jacob said to his father, “I am Esau your firstborn.

I have done as you told me.

Please sit up and eat some of my game so that you may give me your blessing.”

Isaac asked his son, “How did you find it so quickly, my son?” “The Lord your God gave me success,” he replied.

Then Isaac said to Jacob, “Come near so I can touch you, my son, to know whether you really are my son Esau or not.”

Jacob went close to his father Isaac, who touched him and said, “The voice is the voice of Jacob, but the hands are the hands of Esau.”

He did not recognize him, for his hands were hairy like those of his brother Esau; so he blessed him.

“Are you really my son Esau?” he asked.

“I am,” he replied.

Then he said, “My son, bring me some of your game to eat, so that I may give you my blessing.”

Jacob brought it to him and he ate; and he brought some wine and he drank.

Then his father Isaac said to him, “Come here, my son, and kiss me.”

So he went to him and kissed him.

When Isaac caught the smell of his clothes, he blessed him and said, “Ah, the smell of my son is like the smell of a field that the Lord has blessed.

May God give you of heaven’s dew and of earth’s richness— an abundance of grain and new wine.

May nations serve you and peoples bow down to you.

Be lord over your brothers, and may the sons of your mother bow down to you.

May those who curse you be cursed and those who bless you be blessed.”

After Isaac finished blessing him and Jacob had scarcely left his father’s presence, his brother Esau came in from hunting.

He too prepared some tasty food and brought it to his father.

Then he said to him, “My father, sit up and eat some of my game, so that you may give me your blessing.”

His father Isaac asked him, “Who are you?”

“I am your son,” he answered, “your firstborn, Esau.”

Isaac trembled violently and said, “Who was it, then, that hunted game and brought it to me?

I ate it just before you came and I blessed him—and indeed he will be blessed!”

When Esau heard his father’s words, he burst out with a loud and bitter cry and said to his father, “Bless me—me too, my father!”

But he said, “Your brother came deceitfully and took your blessing.”

Esau said, “Isn’t he rightly named Jacob?

He has deceived me these two times: He took my birthright, and now he’s taken my blessing!”

Then he asked, “Haven’t you reserved any blessing for me?” Isaac answered Esau, “I have made him lord over you and have made all his relatives his servants, and I have sustained him with grain and new wine.

So what can I possibly do for you, my son?” Esau said to his father, “Do you have only one blessing, my father?

Bless me too, my father!”

Then Esau wept aloud.

In Biblical times, a blessing like this was a special occasion.

At a specific time in their life, a son or daughter could expect to hear words of encouragement, love and acceptance from their father- words that gave them a tremendous sense of being highly valued and that pictured a special future for them.There are several key elements of this ancient blessing tradition that are applicable today and that all of us desperately need and desire.

In fact, it is possible for godly parents to meet the deepest needs of our children by building these elements into our children’s daily lives to ensure they receive the blessing they need for a good future.Jacob should not have had to trick his father into blessing him, but in his humanity Isaac favored Esau, while their mother favored Jacob.In ancient times, the eldest son had the honor of receiving a double portion of the father’s inheritance- meaning he got twice as much as anyone else.Esau had previously dishonored both God and his father by trading his birth right for a bowl of red stew.

This showed that he was a carnal, worldly man that cared neither to honor God nor his parents by his lifestyle.

He traded his right to inherit the patriarchal lineage for the pleasure of a single meal.

But while Esau gave up the worldly inheritance, he likely comforted himself that he would one day receive his father’s blessing- something worth more than all of the animals and money his father would give to his sons.But as Esau was out in the field working to kill some wild game to prepare for his father, his brother Jacob snuck in and stole his blessing.And now Esau begins to weep- pleading with his father to bless him.

Filled with hurt, Esau cries out again, “Do you have only blessing, my father?

Bless me, even also, O my father.”

So Esau lifted up his voice and wept.”Isaac

does in fact give Esau somewhat of a blessing, but it is not the words of high value and acceptance that Esau longed to hear.

Can you hear the anguish in those words, “Bless me O father.”Every

child needs:Personal attentionAffectionAffirmationThis is what the blessing provides.

When children receive these things at home, they are much better prepared to have a healthy, productive life and relationship with God.