Biblical Parenting Part 2C
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Biblical Parenting Part 2C
Biblical Parenting Part 2C
I have few points today:
We need men and women who makes deliberate moves as parents: Why?
Every moves that guarantees success in life are always strategic, calculated, and deliberate.
Abraham made a deliberate move in building a godly home for Isaac. in
Now Abraham was old, advanced in age, and Yahweh had blessed Abraham in everything. And Abraham said to his servant, the oldest of his house, who had charge of all he had, “Please put your hand under my thigh that I may make you swear by Yahweh, the God of heaven and the God of earth, that you will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites in whose midst I am dwelling, but that you will go to my land and to my family, and take a wife for my son, for Isaac.” And the servant said to him, “Perhaps the woman will not be willing to follow me to this land—must I then return your son to the land from whence you came?” Abraham said to him, “You must take care that you do not return my son there. Yahweh, the God of heaven who took me from the house of my father and from the land of my family, and who spoke to me and swore to me, saying, ‘to your offspring I will give this land,’ he will send his angel before you, and you shall take a wife for my son from there. And if the woman is not willing to follow you, then you shall be released from this oath of mine—only you must not return my son there.” Then the servant put his hand under the thigh of Abraham his master, and he swore to him concerning this matter.
Pay attention to the strategic, calculated and deliberate move of Abraham:
Abraham made him to swear: To swear an oath carries the expectation that the promised made will be kept. “Abraham strategically commissioned his servant to faithfulness in his assignment.”
The object of the Oath is that the servant will not take a wife for Isaac from among the people of Canaan. Specific instruction regarding the don’ts
But that you will go to my family and take a wife for my son Isaac. Specific instruction regarding the dos.
You must take care that you do not return my child there… only, you must not return my son there… vs 6&8 - he was a mission that gave no room to compromise.
Abraham was not randomizing his move, he has a clear goal in mind…
So to build a godly home requires men and women who are deliberate: they are running with the principles of God, they are not willing to entertain shifting grounds; they are not men and women who returns to their old ways of life....
please listen to the lyrics of this song
I will never be the same again.
I can never return I've closed the door
I will walk the path I'll run the race
And I will never be the same again…
I will never be the same again. I can never return I've closed the door, I will walk the path I'll run the race, And I will never be the same again…
on the issue of building a godly home, you can not give in to any form of compromise.
We need men and women who have clear understanding of their divine positioning and roles in the home.
What is your role as a man?
As a man, you are a nourisher, a protector, and an upholder.
How can we summarize your role as a woman?
As a woman, in Hebrew you are an “em”, which means, the bond of the family. i can say, you are like a glue that binds everything together. you are to nurture, protect and be a source of comfort in the home.
Parent must represent all that Jesus is to their children, because children are concrete thinkers, and the parent is the first picture of God that a child sees (i re-arranged this statement from larry and judi keefauver)
This is simply saying, we are to always demonstrate godliness in our home: we are in a way role playing Jesus in our homes. I will give us, 5 nature of Christ that we can demonstrate in our homes before our children...
A Sinless Holy life - a life on integrity is a must.
And you know that Jesus came to take away our sins, and there is no sin in him.
Remember what the bible says:
but as the one who called you is holy, you yourselves be holy in all your conduct, for it is written, “You will be holy, because I am holy.”
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but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, since it is written, “You shall be holy, for I am holy.” And if you call on him as Father who judges impartially according to each one’s deeds, conduct yourselves with fear throughout the time of your exile,
The righteous who walks in his integrity— blessed are his children after him!
1 Pet 1:15-
prov 20
Sacrificial Life -
And all those who live on the earth will worship him, everyone whose name is not written from the foundation of the world in the book of life of the Lamb who was slaughtered.
And whoever forces you to go one mile, go with him two. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.
you must demonstrate sacrificial living before your children. don’t do things simply because it is convenient, be willing to go the extra mile to see that things get done… “if a man ask you to go a mile, the bible says, go two miles”
And whoever forces you to go one mile, go with him two. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.
in speaking to the husband he says:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for her;
speaking to the wife the bible says:
And she arises while it is still night, and gives food to her household, and tasks to her servant girls.
She does not fear for her house when it snows, for her entire household is clothed in crimson.
prov 31
Jesus Obeyed and have great honour for God - his father:
I will no longer speak much with you, for the ruler of the world is coming, and he has no power over me. But so that the world may know that I love the Father, and just as the Father has commanded me, thus I am doing. Get up, let us go from here!
but I will do what the Father requires of me, so that the world will know that I love the Father. Come, let’s be going.
And now I have told you before it happens, so that when it happens, you may believe.
For I have not spoken from myself, but the Father himself who sent me has commanded me what I should say and what I should speak.
john 14
john 14:
But so that the world may know that I love the Father, and just as the Father has commanded me, thus I am doing. Get up, let us go from here!
john 12 49
Then I said, ‘Look, I have come to do your will, O God— as is written about me in the Scriptures.’ ”
and the bible says:
Praise the Lord! Blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who greatly delights in his commandments! His offspring will be mighty in the land; the generation of the upright will be blessed.
a life of obedient to God’s commandment as a father has an outflow of blessing on your children.
Jesus lived a Purposeful life:
Then Pilate said to him, “So then you are a king!” Jesus replied, “You say that I am a king. For this reason I was born, and for this reason I have come into the world: in order that I can testify to the truth. Everyone who is of the truth hears my voice.”
and the bible says of us:
You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.
psalm 139:15-16
we are a purposeful creation of God, your marriage is a purposeful institution of God, search out and discover the purpose of God for your home.
A soul winner
And he went around through all of Galilee, teaching in their synagogues and proclaiming the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and every sickness among the people.
And Jesus was going around all the towns and the villages, teaching in their synagogues and proclaiming the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and every sickness.
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and he said to us:
And Jesus approached and spoke to them, saying, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,
And he said to them, “Go into all the world and preach the gospel to all creation.
Everything that the Father has is mine. For this reason I said that he takes from what is mine and will proclaim it to you.
The bible says he that winneth a soul is wise… he that winneth a soul shall shine as the star...
And they that be wise shall shine as the brightness of the firmament; and they that turn many to righteousness as the stars for ever and ever.
We need men and women of proven characters:
We will read the book of proverbs and apply the passage to both parent
3 It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel. 4 Sluggards do not plow in season; so at harvest time they look but find nothing. 5 The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out. 6 Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find? 7 The righteous lead blameless lives; blessed are their children after them.
There are at least 4 characters in this passage that every parent must pursue: There are more than 4, but for my purpose, I will only mention 4.
Patience: it is to one’s honour to avoid strife, why? fools are quick to quarrel. one author puts it this way “make up your mind to be patient and learn to make strategic exit whenever you find yourself loosing control, also remember to ask God to help you control your temper”
A soft answer will turn away wrath, but a word of trouble will stir anger.
prov
Diligence: The home needs parents who are not lazy, we need men and women who are diligent in business. the bible says
Do you see a man skillful in his work? He will stand before kings; he will not stand before obscure men.
we know it takes hard work to develop any useful skill...
understanding heart and a Listening ear: a writer paraphrased to say “the thoughts in a child’s heart are like deep waters but an understanding father draws them out”. in a sense, as parents we need to spend time with our children in an informal relaxed setting, so as to be able to capture what is already in their heart, and carefully helped guide and balanced their imperfect views about life. Daniel Switzer said “ God wants us to draw out understanding from the heart of our children” - in order words we can not just keep feeding them with instructions without allowing them to act out what has been formed in them… quick fixes without careful listening, will only lead to quick failling of their life - they will fall away quickly from the Lord because the purpose of their heart are not being channeled towards God
He who spares his sayings knows knowledge, and a cool spirit is a man of understanding.
Faithfulness: verse 6 says a faithful person who can find? the quality of being trustworthy, reliable, dependable and thorough in performance of duty. this is what it means to be faithful. as parents we are to be faithful stewards before God. finding time to attend to physical, emotional and spiritual needs of our home.
2 Moreover, it is required of stewards that they be found faithful.
We need men and women who can distinguish between child raring and child raising.
Entrance:
Entrance:
Without a godly home, biblical parenting is practically impossible, because the thoughts, the characters, and the way of life of anyone who has not experienced the new birth can never agree with the pattern and the standard of God.
we began this study by
I want you to write this down:
“the moves that guarantees success in anything that we do in life, are always strategic, calculated, and deliberate.”
Therefore, we need deliberate men and women, who are ready to take the heat, bear the cost and face the odds in the pursuit of building a godly home that will serve as the bedrock of successful parenting.
Abraham:
Review:
Review:
We started looking at some points beginning from part 2B:
We were trying to answer these four questions:
Who is a parent and what does parenting entails?
How accountable are we as parents?
The role of Godly father and Godly mother in biblical parenting
We will also explore the difference between raring and raising a child
At the end of Part 2B, we were left with two unanswered questions:
The role of a godly father and a godly mother in biblical parenting and
we will explore the differences between raring a child and raising a child.
If we have time, we will discuss the subject of parental styles.
I will also approach this under two sub headings: The summarized role of a godly father and The summarized role of a godly mother
III. The ROLE of Godly Father and Mother in Biblical Parenting:
A. The Summarized Role of a Godly father:
A. The Summarized Role of a Godly father:
A. we will approach this topic int two ways:
we will approach this topic int two ways:
The summary of the role of a godly man
Curious questions:
The responsibilities of a godly father
And the character that guarantees success
The summary of the role of a godly woman
Who is a father?A man who has a child - biological or spiritual.According to greek word “pater” from which we have the word “father.” Father can be described as a nourishera protectorand an upholderin order words, a father is a man who accepts the responsibility of providing leadership, guidance and protection for his children.
What a father must do right.You must demonstrate before your children reverence and love for Godyou must demonstrate sacrificial love for your wifeyou must demonstrate providential support for them financially and in other areas as wellyou must demonstrate leadershipYou must demonstrate discipline as true loveyou must demonstrate sacrifice as true loveyou must demonstrate diligent training and instruction as being responsibleyou must demonstrate prayerfulness as dependance and worship to Godyou must demonstrate obedience as a must to God in all thingsyou must demonstrate the scripture as the authority in all situations of life.
We discovered that a parent is more than just having children to care for, either spiritually or biologically, but, it can also mean that you are a TEACHER ‘ you are in a lifelong teaching business.’ in the same way, to be a father have much deeper meaning than a man who has begotten children either spiritual or biological. To be a father can also mean, “a nourisher, a protector and an upholder” in order words, a father is a man who accepts the responsibility of providing leadership, guidance and protection for his children.
The bible says “blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who finds great delight in his commands. His children will be mighty in the land; the generation of the upright will be blessed”
Demonstrating love and reverence for God is part of your fatherly accountability as a father
“Husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” Ephe 5:25
Is your love for your wife sacrificial? what have you given up for her? are you a lover both in words and in deeds?