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FAMILY CHAT PART 2

PART 2

NOW I AM COMING TO YOU FOR THE THIRD TIME, AND I WILL NOT BE A BURDEN TO YOU.

I DON'T WANT WHAT YOU HAVE—I WANT YOU.

AFTER ALL, CHILDREN DON'T PROVIDE FOR THEIR PARENTS.

RATHER, PARENTS PROVIDE FOR THEIR CHILDREN.

I WILL GLADLY SPEND MYSELF AND ALL I HAVE FOR YOU, EVEN THOUGH IT SEEMS THAT THE MORE I LOVE YOU, THE LESS YOU LOVE ME.

INTRODUCTION

Good Morning Southpointe, We are in this series Family chat and I hope that each family is doing their part not just to win this great furniture over here but to enrich their family life.

The family culture is so strange, the northern, the southern, the western, and eastern.

We all have different way on raising our families.

But I am pretty sure that at one time in your life what Apostle Paul is saying here to this church, you have been in his shoes.

Apostle Paul is talking to the church of Corinth and He is very disappointed in their actions and their lifestyle.

For I am afraid that when I come I won't like what I find, and you won't like my response.

I am afraid that I will find quarreling, jealousy, anger, selfishness, slander, gossip, arrogance, and disorderly behavior.

Yes, I am afraid that when I come again, God will humble me in your presence.

And I will be grieved because many of you have not given up your old sins.

You have not repented of your impurity, sexual immorality, and eagerness for lustful pleasure.

This is what I want to put in the context of this subject.

Apostle Paul is the father of this church, the people attending this church are like his children.

He has told them over and over about giving their lives to God and becoming all that God wants them to be.

And how they should be living and the moment he is not around then they will go back to living in disobedient.

I believe that there’s not a parent thru out history that at one time or another, has or will be feeling the same way that Apostle Paul was at this time.

One of the strange dynamics in family life is that when children grow up they often repeat the mistakes of their families.

Apostle Paul was not always a good guy.

One of the strange dynamics in family life is that when children grow up they often repeat the mistakes of their families.

The truth is that what we know about marriage and parenting for good or bad we learned in our homes.

The end result is that dysfunctional families can create dysfunctional families often for generations.

I believe that this is at least a part of what the Bible is speaking of when it says in

'The LORD is slow to anger and filled with unfailing love, forgiving every kind of sin and rebellion.

But He does not excuse the guilty.

He lays the sins of the parents upon their children; the entire family is affected—even children in the third and fourth generations.'

You know that I am a big Charlie Brown’s fan

One of the strange dynamics in family life is that when children grow up they often repeat the mistakes of their families.

The truth is that what we know about marriage and parenting for good or bad we learned in our homes.

The end result is that dysfunctional families can create dysfunctional families often for generations.

I believe that this is at least a part of what the Bible is speaking of when it says in , that God visits “…. the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and fourth generation” (NKJV).

Which way is your Deck Chair Facing?

There’s something about the cartoon strip, "Peanuts" that will make you laugh but also make you think.

There’s something about the cartoon strip, "Peanuts" that can evoke a chuckle while simultaneously piercing our conscience.

That’s what happened to me when I discovered a profound message in one of Charles Schultz’s comic strips.

Charlie Brown was sitting in a deck chair near the front of a large boat when Lucy walked up.

And she said "Some people go through life with the deck chairs facing forward, gazing out where they are going and others go through life with their deck chair facing backwards, looking at where they’ve been."

She then paused and looks directly into Charlie Brown’s sunglasses she asked him, "Charlie Brown, which way is your deck chair facing?"

Charlie Brown responded simply, "I really don’t know—I’ve never been able to get my deck chair unfolded!"

When it comes to the directions that we are set up for our family, it is very important in the direction the deck chair faces.

It is toward God or away from God?

Your Family Values are being formed.

Today I want to help you build values that reflect Godly influence.

It isn’t going to be easy – but its not impossible if you understand what you face and what you must do.

Hanging By a Thread by David Boehl

We face a real challenge.

About a generation ago the demographic group known as the Baby Boomers started an experiment in life.

This experiment was based on new and different values.

They broke from “traditional” values and they were based on new ideas and new freedoms which have been promoted, pushed, and hyped with unrelenting enthusiasm and energy.

Politicians, educators, lawyers, doctors, business executives, Hollywood filmmakers, book publishers, newspaper and magazine editors, perhaps even some key religious leaders, have all been engaged in selling us these new values.

David Boehl in an article called “Hanging by a Thread” laid these values out in seven statements:

1.

Personal happiness the main goal

Personal happiness, fulfillment, and independence are the highest goals for any person.

2. Marriage for life old-fashioned

The idea of marrying someone for life is old-fashioned.

Divorce is not harmful, but should be encouraged if couples are not compatible.

We should not worry about how divorce affects children; they have a remarkable ability to adapt to hardship.

3. Traditional roles are confining and outdated

Women should be encouraged to pursue careers and personal fulfillment, and it is unfair to view men as leaders of their homes.

4. Teenagers should make their own choices

Parents should be encouraged to begin ’letting go’ of their children as they begin adolescence.

Then these teenagers can began to make their own, independent choices.

5.

There is no such thing as absolute morality

We encourage each individual to experience sexual freedom by setting aside biblical morals regarding premarital sex, extramarital sex, and homosexuality.

We must embrace tolerance for any lifestyle an individual chooses.

6. Question all authority at every opportunity

7. The influence of Christianity should be eliminated from public life

Reaping the Whirlwind

For they have sown the wind, and they shall reap the whirlwind

There is nothing that is new with these values and ideas.

Hosea preached about the same kind of problems in his day – and that was over 2500 years ago.

There is nothing all that new with these values and ideas.

Hosea preached about the same kind of problems in his day – and that was over 2500 years ago.

Over those 2500 years cultures have risen and fallen.

Societies have been built and then decayed.

Nations have been established and then ruined.

The values of the people made all the difference.

The further away from Godly values the more likely the society is to be wrecked like a ship on a rocky coast.

In this message today I’d like to give you three steps to take that will help you unfold the deckchair and face it toward God!

His serious, seven-page speech was trivialized by focusing on one sentence in which Quayle criticized the television character Murphy Brown.

The real substance of Quayle’s speech went mostly unreported.

For example: When we were young, it was fashionable to declare war against traditional values.

Indulgence and self-gratification seemed to have no consequences.

Many of our generation glamorized casual sex and drug use, evaded responsibility, and trashed authority."

Dan Quayle, 1992

For making this statement and taking this position he was marginalized and treated as a dunce, stupid, foolish, and a dunderhead.

In this message today I’d like to give you three steps to take that will help you unfold the deckchair and face it toward God!

Let us determine that we will build our families on values that are God directed and life giving.

1. Remember My Words

Deut 11:18 "So commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these words of mine.

Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders.

When Moses said this he spoke to a nation of people who had escaped from Egyptian slavery.

They had lived there for 400 years.

That’s a long time to build up cultural identity and to buy into social values that were different than God’s values.