God's Plan for Es - Ee - Ex
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· 15 viewsGod has a good plan for sex and it's different from the world's.
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So a lot of you are talking about it, the majority of you are thinking about it. We need to address it in church. Sex. Now I know it’s weird, so let’s go ahead and get all these out!
Toss out little Snickers bars to everyone.
Sex is this taboo thing in the church and it makes people uncomfortable, but our culture is not uncomfortable with it in the least!
Y’all are definitely hearing what the world says about sex. You have to hear what God says about it.
The world is telling you it’s a free for all. We are just creatures seeking pleasure. But the world doesn’t get to decides that. Some doctor or psychologist doesn’t get to decide that.
God created sex. He’s the one who made it so pleasurable! It’s true!
So He is the one who knows the right and wrong ways to go about it.
This is not a sex ed course. Not going to talk about what does what and goes where. Not an anatomy course.
Humanity has taken a good gift from God and abused it and twisted it.
This is not a sex ed course. Not going to talk about what does what and goes where. Not an anatomy course.
We’re going to look in the Bible and see what God’s plan for sex is. Then we’re going to talk about the lies that the world tells women and men about it.
And as we talk about this, I understand that there is a lot of hurt and brokenness that surfaces with this topic. I know some of you come from backgrounds where you haven’t seen it done the way God’s Word says. Some of you have made your own mistakes.
God is love. God is grace. Jesus showed mercy to the woman caught in adultery, but He also told her to go and sin no more.
God has a good plan for sex and it’s very different from the world’s.
PRAY & Read Gen 2:18-25
A woman for the man
A woman for the man
A sexual relationship is meant for two people
A sexual relationship is meant for two people
Pornography is against God’s plan for sex.
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.
Job “Covenant with my eyes.”
We’ll talk about this more later, but for now, understand that God’s design has never involved sexual stories, pictures, or videos on tv or the internet.
A sexual relationship is meant for a man and a woman
A sexual relationship is meant for a man and a woman
God made a man and a woman. Again, we’re not doing sex ed, but he made the man and woman function well together, if you catch my drift.
For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.
We are in a sexually and gender confused world, but God’s Word is clear on this.
People like to say that they “were born this way”. Ok, fine. I was born wanting to have sex with as many women as I could. God’s Word says that’s sin and I submit to that and repent. We are born with all kinds of sinful desires. Being born with a desire doesn’t make it good.
One of my favorite quotes I’ve ever heard is an answer to this. The Gospel says you can be born again, another way.
Christian, hear this! Homosexuality (and gender confusion while we’re at it) are sins that are difficult and they aren’t as common as many sins, but they aren’t a special class of sin either.
Do not treat people struggling with this like they are freaks. They need the Gospel in the same way you do.
Treat them with love and respect, which includes telling them the truth of God’s Word.
Your friend having sex with their boyfriend or girlfriend needs to hear the same thing as your gay friend (yes, it’s ok to have a gay friend).
If this is something you’re experiencing, I would love to talk with you about it.
But God’s tells us with love and with grace in his hand, that sex is for one woman and one man, and here’s what He says about their relationship.
Hold fast to his wife
Hold fast to his wife
Sex is for a husband and wife. Marriage is a life-long commitment.
Ride or die, it’s me and Kristen against the world.
This is important because sex brings a closeness between people. Part of its purpose is creating intimacy.
When a spouse starts having eyes for another, whether it’s a person they know, an imaginary person on a screen, or they just want to be selfish and think only about their own happiness, that disrupts the intimacy that a husband and wife are supposed to share.
Sex creates a strong, physiological bond and intimacy. Every time it happens.
They become one flesh
They become one flesh
Sex is for a husband and wife.
Sex is for a husband and wife.
It’s the consummation act of the marriage.
You ever want a sip of water in the middle of the night. Wouldn’t it be a lot easier to just get some from the toilet than going all the way to the kitchen? It’s all water!
No. That’s not good water, not pure water. Sexual activity outside of marriage is not pure.
Or think about fire. I love fire, low key pyro. Fire places and fire pits are fun. A fire in my bed, dangerous. It needs to be in the proper place. It’s the same thing with sexual activity.
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
It’s not “just sex”. Hook up culture doesn’t work.
It’s not “just sex”. Hook up culture doesn’t work.
There are chemicals release in the brain during sex the create a psychological bond between two people.
“How far is too far?” I asked that question too. Please don’t ask that question!
Y’all see the chunky style milk Super Bowl ad? That’s kind of like asking, “how much chunky style milk will make me throw up?”
But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible,
But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.
Y’all see the chunky style milk Super Bowl ad? That’s kind of like asking, “how much chunky style milk will make me throw up?”
Don’t says, “well a blow job isn’t technically sex. A little finger diddling isn’t technically sex.” That’s not fleeing from sexual immorality.
And by the way, the word from the original language that is translated “sexual immorality” is porneia (sound familiar?), and it means basically any sexual activity outside of marriage.
The NIV translates as there must not be a hint of sexual immorality. Don’t try to get close to the edge of this cliff!
And another thing! You can go too far without actually touching. Without actually even being in the same place. Do not send nudes!!!
Naked and not ashamed
Naked and not ashamed
Sex is a gift from God.
There’s a book in the Bible called Song of Solomon and it’s a love song/story that goes from engagement to wedding to early marriage. There’s a whole chapter in the middle of the book about the wedding night. The bible makes sex sound awesome! It’s not explicit or anything, but the Bible is clear that sex is great!
I came to my garden, my sister, my bride, I gathered my myrrh with my spice, I ate my honeycomb with my honey, I drank my wine with my milk. Eat, friends, drink, and be drunk with love!
Song of solomon 5:1
Many Bible scholars believe this is God speaking this response to their sex filled wedding night! Sex is a wonderful gift that God has given to humanity! But if we don’t use it the way it was made to be used, we can get hurt!
A few weeks ago we were in the garage and Parker saw my chop saw and asked me what it did. I took this little piece of scrap wood and threw it on there. That saw is made to cut large pieces, not scrap wood. I said, “watch this Parker!” Brought that saw down and that piece of wood exploded into two piece and one of them caught me in the forehead! When you use powerful things in a way they aren’t meant to be used, they can hurt you. The same is true of sex.
Be fruitful
Be fruitful
Sex is for growing families. Genesis 1:28
Sex is for growing families. Genesis 1:28
This is part of God’s plan and purpose for sex, to have children. This is of course supposed to be within marriage.
But know that just because a child is conceived, you may have been conceived, outside of marriage, that doesn’t mean that you aren’t part of God’s plan or God is turned away from you!
He loves you just the same!
We also need to affirm this here: Abortion is heart breaking.
Scripture assumes that life begins at conception.
Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin did my mother conceive me.
Every life is made in the image of God. Whether it was planned by the parents, whether it’s a life that will have physical or mental handicaps or difficulties, it’s a life made in the image of God. Just as valuable as any other life.
Abortion is heartbreaking and we should all at the very least be praying that it would end.
This is God’s plan for sex: that it be between a husband and a wife for consummation, intimacy, pleasure, and growing a family. Now we’re going to talk about what the world says.
Lies our culture tells women and God’s response.
Lies our culture tells women and God’s response.
You’ve already given in, it’s too late for you.
You’ve already given in, it’s too late for you.
1 John 1:9
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
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It doesn’t count if you don’t actually have sex.
It doesn’t count if you don’t actually have sex.
1 Corinthians 6:18-19
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own,
1 corinthians 6
It’s your body, do whatever you want.
It’s your body, do whatever you want.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
If you want him to know you love him, you have to sleep with him.
If you want him to know you love him, you have to sleep with him.
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
You have to be sure you’re compatible in every way.
You have to be sure you’re compatible in every way.
Hebrews 13:4
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Lies our culture tells men and God’s response.
Lies our culture tells men and God’s response.
Men hook up with as many chicks as possible.
Men hook up with as many chicks as possible.
This is not where manhood comes from. Remember what Job said. Job was heralded by God as a good man.
Hooking up won’t make you feel manly long term. It will leave you lonely. Being content in who you are in Christ is what will offer you satisfaction in who you are.
Everyone looks at porn, it’s fine.
Everyone looks at porn, it’s fine.
But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Matthew 5:28
Matthew 5:28
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God says it’s not fine.
But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
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Modesty is just for girls.
Modesty is just for girls.
Scripture is pretty clear that God made men to be leaders. So we lead even in this.
If a girl sees a guy with cleavage, it doesn’t have quite the same affect as it does on us, but we need to know that we still have to be modest in ways that protect women, just like we ask them to be modest to protect us.
Sex is about having your desires fulfilled.
Sex is about having your desires fulfilled.
Your sex drive should not be your biggest drive. This is just not true, even though pretty much every movie, tv show, song, and ad tells you it is. Mark 12:30
And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’
When you get married, you get sex whenever and where ever you want it.
When you get married, you get sex whenever and where ever you want it.
For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
1 Corinthians 7:4
; This means compromise, not non-stop sex fest!
God’s plan for sex points to Jesus.
God’s plan for sex points to Jesus.
God’s plan for sex points to Jesus.
God’s plan for sex points to Jesus.
The intimacy in marriage, which is enhanced by sex according to God’s plan, points us to the love Jesus has for his church and his people.
If you’ve made mistakes, there is grace, love, and forgiveness found in Jesus.
If you’ve made mistakes, there is grace, love, and forgiveness found in Jesus.