Sermon Tone Analysis

Korean War Veteran 86 - Baptist Preacher - Al Norman.

Jeff is son… carpenter - learned from His dad.

Making straight Arrows out of Crooked Sticks

Jeff is son… carpenter - learned from His dad.

John H. Starkey was a violent British criminal.

He murdered his own wife, then was convicted for the crime and executed.

The officials asked General William Booth, founder of the Salvation Army, to conduct Starkey’s funeral.

Booth faced as ugly and mean a crowd as he had ever seen in his life, but his first words stopped them and held them: “John H. Starkey never had a praying mother!”

For the most part, children do not create problems; they reveal them.

Parents who cannot discipline themselves cannot discipline their children.

If a father and mother are not under authority themselves, they cannot exercise authority over others.

It is only as parents submit to each other and to the Lord that they can exercise properly balanced spiritual and physical authority over their children.

tekna: παιδός: one’s immediate offspring, but without specific reference to sex or age—‘child, offspring.’

Who is he talking to?

Not a specific age.

Any child still living in the home under parental guidance.

Who is paying the bills?

obey your parents

hypakouete

f feminine

ὑπακούω (hypakouō).

vb. to obey.

This verb means “to obey,” with nuances of hearing and then doing.

Johannes P. Louw and Eugene Albert Nida, Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testament: Based on Semantic Domains (New York: United Bible Societies, 1996), 115.

OBEY WHAT? - in all things,

The only limit placed on a child’s obedience is when a parent demands something contrary to God’s law.

WHY? for this is well-pleasing to the Lord!

Children OBEY.

- Parents have a role as well.

Pateres (fathers) should be translated, “parents,” as it is in Hebrews 11:23.

Colossians: The MacArthur New Testament Commentary A Word to Parents

Pateres (fathers) should be translated, “parents,” as it is in Hebrews 11:23.

Pateres (fathers) should be translated, “parents,” as it is in .

father, male parent (Lk 2:48; Heb 12:9); 2. LN 10.18 parents, both mother and father

Pateres:

father, male parent (; )

parents, both mother and father (Heb 11:23)

Exasperate is from erethizō and means to stir up, provoke, irritate, or exasperate.

to cause someone to feel resentment—‘to make resentful, to make someone bitter.’

erethizō - to provoke (challenge) v. — to stir someone to action, as if by challenging them to a contest; sometimes negatively, to the point of exasperation.

to cause someone to feel resentment—‘to make resentful, to make someone bitter.’

21 Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.

Parents can take the heart out of their children by failing to discipline them lovingly and instruct them in the ways of the Lord with balance.

to provoke (challenge) v. — to stir someone to action, as if by challenging them to a contest; sometimes negatively, to the point of exasperation.

If a child lives with criticism,

he learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility,

he learns to fight.

If a child lives with ridicule,

he learns to be shy.

If a child lives with shame,

he learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance,

he learns to be patient.

If a child lives with encouragement,

he learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise,

he learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness,

he learns justice.

If a child lives with security,

he learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval,

he learns to like himself.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,

he learns to find love in the world.

(Copyright 1982 by Dorothy Law Nolte.

Used by permission.)

lose heart

to be disheartened v. — to be or become discouraged or disheartened; lose spirit.

Crooked stick… parenting a crooked stick…

God is using out kids in the process of conforming us to his image.

Using parents in the process of conforming our children to His image.

Only God can make a crooked stick straight…

Discouraged children are fair prey for Satan and the world.

When a child does not get “ego-strength” at home, he will seek it elsewhere.

It is a pity that some Christian parents do not help their children develop their personalities, their gifts, and their skills.

If a home is truly Christian, it is a place of encouragement.

In such a home, the child finds refuge from battles, and yet strength to fight the battles and carry the burdens of growing maturity.

He finds a loving heart, a watching eye, a listening ear, and a helping hand.

He does not want any other place—home meets his needs.

In this kind of a home, it is natural for the child to trust Christ and want to live for Him.

The ultimate responsibility for carrying out discipline when children step out of line falls on the father as the head of the home.

No dad is called to be a harsh, unloving, ironfisted dictator.

Nor is he to relinquish his authority and become a passive, timid, permissive parent who fails to provide leadership or exercise discipline when necessary.

Fathers (and mothers) are to set standards, provide guidance, and discipline their children with patience, kindness, and love.

Paul warns fathers not to “exasperate” their children, crushing their spirits and causing them to lose heart (3:21).

The Greek term erethizō [2042] means “to arouse” or “to provoke,” mostly in a bad sense”[124] The idea is that through overbearing actions, a father can push a child over the edge, not only failing to impart wisdom but actually goading the child into anger, resentment, and bitterness!

He can do this by being overly critical or by disciplining too harshly or too often.

A wise father will balance instruction and discipline with fun and laughter.

And he will never tire of telling his children “I love you” and reinforcing it with affectionate actions.

Swindoll, Charles R.. Insights on Philippians, Colossians, Philemon (Swindoll's Living Insights New Testament Commentary Book 9) .

Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.. Kindle Edition.