Sermon Tone Analysis

FAMILY DRIVEN FAITH:

INTRODUCTION NOTES:

“I believe that we are looking for answers in all the wrong places.

Our children are not falling away because the church is doing a poor job-although that is undoubtedly a factor.

Our children are falling away because we are asking the church to do what God designed the family to accomplish.

Discipleship and multi-generational faithfulness begins and ends at home.

At best, the church is to play a supporting role as it 'equips the saints for the work of ministry”’.

(FDF/Baucham/p.7)

“...put the ball back in the family’s court and motivate, correct, encourage, and equip families to do what God commands concerning the next generation.

The Bible is clear about what God expects out of the home and about how it is to be accomplished.

Unfortunately, most Christians did not grow up in a home that taught these truths.

Thus, we continue to repeat the “sins of the fathers.”

(FDF/Baucham/p.7)

OBSERVATION: I find/observe very often that even when referencing a positive memory, experience or outcome of a youth ministry...the first justifying factor still comes back to the parents.

(ie.

when I was growing up, my parents....).

There is a God mandated multigenerational impact from parents to children and then even to their children.

There is on the other hand at best an experiential impact of church programs.

For some this experience is positive while for others it is negative.

WORDS:

Discipleship

multi-generational (faithfulness)

Jurisdiction

CHAPTER 1 “LAY OF THE LAND”

Key Aspects of Church Family ()

Mature Christian (men/women)

Bible Study

Church attendance/fellowship

70-88 percent of Christian teens are leaving the church by their second year in college.

OBSERVATION: It should be obvious to us that such youth were never of us, because they literally were never of us.

The vast majority of Christian youth leave for college before ever actually regularly sitting under the preaching of the word on a consistent basis.

Most have been segregated and entertained through church.

“The majority of American teenagers appear to espouse rather inclusive, pluralistic, and individualistic views about religious truth, identity boundaries, and the need for religious congregation.’

In other words, the culture of secular humanism appears to have co-opted America’s Christian teens.”

(FDF/Baucham/p.12)

“It is as though Christian parents in America have been lulled to sleep while the thief has come in to steal, kill, and destroy our children right under our noses.

() I didn’t write this book as an expert with all of the answers.

I am just a minister who has seen this alarming trend over the past decade and a father with a desire to see his family characterized by multigenerational faithfulness.”

(FDF/Baucham/p.13)

TWO SIDES OF LIFE

...if I spend hours reading the Bible and praying and invest the lion’s share of my time ministering to others while neglecting my role as husband and father, my relationship with Christ is out of balance or, worse, inauthentic.”

FDF/Baucham/p.13)

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Requirements for a minister highlight the emphasis on the home...

First one must be able to teach.

Second, he must manage his household well.

(, and )

“...if I have not performed in an exemplary fashion as I strive to raise my children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, I have no business shepherding God’s flock.

'If a man does not know how to manage his own household, how will he take care of the church of God?’” (FDF/Baucham/p.14)

ONE MANS JOURNEY

Three Commitments: (FDF/Baucham/p.16)

Committed to staying together and thriving as a couple.

Committed to investing in our children with a view toward multi-genrational faithfulness

Committed to doing whatever we can to reproduce the first two commitments in the lives of others.

A WIDE SCREEN FAMILY IN A FULL SCREEN WORLD

The question is not whether or not our children sin later in life.

The question is, do we have a biblical obligation to train them before they leave home?

Is there any biblical validity to the idea that Christian parents should allow their children to experiment with ungodliness?

Many families have been lulled into what I like to call a full-screen view of parenting.

We look at the biblical mandate and compare it to societal norms, and there appears to be something missing.....all of a sudden our desires for our children change.

Now all we want for our kids is what ‘every other parent’ wants for their children.

The result is a generation about whom..... ‘religion seems to become rather compartmentalized and backgrounded in the lives and experiences of most U.S. teenagers.”.... (FDF/Bauchmam/p.18)

It seems there are a few things that we deem more important for our children than growing in grace.

(FDF/Bauchman/p.21-22)

Making the Grade

“I want my children to get a good education”

Making the Team

“How do your kids learn teamwork and sportsmanship?

How do your children learn to be competitive?”

Making Time

Proper relational investment and boundaries.

Protect your child’s purity.

THE ANTI-MARRIAGE CULTURE

“The sin that I think besets this generation...is the sin of delaying marriage as a lifestyle option among those who intend some day to get married but they just haven’t yet.”

- Albert Mohler (FDF/Bauchman/p.22)

THE ANTI-CHILD CULTURE

When did we begin to hate children?

“Christians must recognize that this rebellion against parenthood represents nothing less than an absolute revolt against God’s design.”

- Albert Mohler (FDF/Bauchman/p.24)

NOTE: The testimony shared in this portion of the book by V. Bauchman about the closing of his wife womb must be read with sensitivity.

First this is a testimony of a conviction that V. Baucham and his wife shared as they grew in the Lord.

This is not shared in a condemning manner of anyone else.

It is a personal testimony of how God moved in their hearts and minds to reshape their view and outlook of family life under God’s design.

Second, this portion of the book is not discussing “family planning” but a proper view of children.

The “full screen” sees “family planning” while the “wide screen”, the one that sees God’s design that has been cut off from the view of the “full screen” sees a child, a life, a blessing from God.

The difference that we are discussing is not where the conversation ends, but where it begins.

I personally do not even like the phrase “family planning”.

It robs us from looking at the full picture.

Yes their is a planning, but we all know that “family planning” as a norm in culture is discussing being the determiner and directer of the size and layout of your family.

It is a thought process that if we are honest and consistent as Christians leads us down the path of being pro-murder of infants in the womb.

It also sets us up for how we view children when they come out of the womb...that they are a burden, a headache or a status symbol...

THE ANTI-CHILD CULTURE

"Think about it- Moses sits down and examines the situation.

Israel is on the threshold of a monumental occasion.

They are about to possess “the Promided Land.”

They had an opportunity forty years earlier but were unwilling to trust God to defeat the inhabitants of Canaan.

Two lone voices, Joshua and Caleb, stood out in the crowd as Caleb said, ‘We should by all means go up and take possession of it, for we will surely overcome it’ ().

However, the people sided with the naysayers and did not go forward....Now forty years later Israel once again stands on the verge of possessing the Promised Land, and Moses, the great leader that he was, decided to give them a few final instructions.

Thus he stood before the people to give the law again.

Thus the book bears the name Deuteronomy (Deutero= repeat; nomos= law, a restating of the Law.

(FDF/Bauchman/p.28)