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Big Idea: We must use love to protect unity from both sides.
Challenge / CTA: If your brother has been offended by you, go to them.
Pray over Word
I thank you, Father, that your word has the power to change my life.
I'm a hearer of the word and a doer of the word and I'll never be the same after today.
In Jesus name Amen.
SERIES SETUP (2min)
[REVIEW PREVIOUS] MESSAGES]
We will all be offended
Even though you feel offended you don’t have to take offense.
Forgiveness is not feelings, trust, approval, or a lack of justice.
Forgiveness is me giving up my right to hurt you for hurting me.
What do i do if I am struggling to forgive?
Your revelation of God’s forgiveness determines your capacity to forgive.
Feedback from Previous Messages:
I just wanted to say thank you for your message today.
I finally got the guts to fully forgive and approach someone that’s been harboring in me for over 2 years.
Thank you.
Thank you so much for this series!
A friend offended me months ago.
Today after church, I called them up to talk about it and it was the most honest and understanding conversations we've had since then.
this is what its all about.
THE PROBLEM (8min)
Today we are going to talk about what to do if you are the offender.
(or are perceived to be the offender)
[STORY POINTING TO PROBLEM]
About 15 years ago, Marcus came to me to talk with me about an offense.
I had made some comments that i was unaware were offensive to him as a black man.
I was honestly ignorant that what i had said was offensive and I assured him that I had no idea
I was horrified that i caused him to think I thought less of him because of his skin tone.
It didn't matter if i meant harm or not
It didn't matter if i thought what i said was offensive or not.
It didn't matter if i could explain why i said what i said.
All that mattered was that my brother was in pain.
I asked for forgiveness and he forgave me.
i asked what could i do to repair the relationship.
And because we both dealt with it maturely,
- he had the courage to come talk with me about somethign so sinsitive.
- I refused to get definsive, and heard my brothers heart.
That offense is behind us and the relationshp is restored.
[STATE PROBLEM]
Many times stories like that don't have happy endings.
The offended take their offense and live in it never saying anything to the offender.
But even worse, many times the offender, ignores their offense, defends themselves, gives excuses,
As we have stated we all have a flesh nature and because we live with other humans.
That presents us with a problem.
It means that we will all offend others at times.
Because we know that the consequences of offense are so terrible, Jesus is insisting that we waist no time in seeking reconciliation with the one offended, that even worship should be put off for it.
A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city.
And contentions are like the bars of castle.
Proverbs 18:19
If the goal is to bring unity then...
[REASONS FOR THE PROBLEM]
[Objection]
What if you have offended someone but we don’t feel we have done anything to offend.
[RELATE EXAMPLES TO GROUPS EXAMPLES]
Spouse: They are upset at nothing
Friends: too sensitive
Work: its their own fault - if they had worked harder
Neighborhood: they can get over it.
[TRANS2 SOLUTION]
The question is, what will you do with that?
Because the church is the hope of the world.
Because jesus left us here to be his conduit for eternal life change, and because the only way they will know us as his disciples we should be more concerned about loving each other than anything else.
Even though we know it is sometimes difficult, We all know that we are supposed to forgive.
In this little verse that jesus taught (sermon on the mount) lies a hidden gem that completes the equation for us loving each other so the world will care about the truth we have.
Lets go back and see.
THE SOLUTION (15min)
[SCRIPTURE]
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar and remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go your way.
First be reconciled to your brother and then come and offer your gift.
Matthew 5:21-24
there is no thought or mention of an unforgiving spirit, so its not about that.
"This is how I want you to conduct yourself in these matters.
If you enter your place of worship and, about to make an offering, you suddenly remember a grudge a friend has against you, abandon your offering, leave immediately, go to this friend and make things right.
Then and only then, come back and work things out with God.”
Matthew 5:23-26 (MSG)
More important to be reconciled with your brother than to worship.
We show how much we love God by how we treat others.
It is so natural to try to make up for our integrity with religious ceremony and works
Ceremony, worship, giving, faith or spiritual gifts will never make up for not resolving offense.
they are an exercise in hypocritical futility
Romans 12:18
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
Remember that if they feel offended (right or wrong), It may be very hard for them to come to you.
You need to go to them if you know they are offended.
[STATE SOLUTION / BOTTOM LINE]
We must use love to protect unity from both sides.
Jesus’s point is clear.
it is more important to be reconciled to your brother than to worship.
Worship is veign if we have offended others in such a way that they are in pain or hold grudges and don’t do what we can to resolve that offense.
We understand we need ot go to others who offended, but jesus is closing up the other side to make sure restoration happnes.
Unity was so important to Jesus.
[objection]
What do we do if we don't feel like it was something offensive?
actually the bible never give the distinction of if the offense is valid.
(if they have something against you)
You may have done nothing wrong.
No matter.
Bionically, it is up to you to attempt reconciliation.
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