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The goal of communication is different for men and women.
This is important to know in marriage, parenting, and friendship.
Men communicate to give and receive information.
Export and import.
Women communicate to connect.
This is where the problems start.
Men, this is why she will sometimes share information that seems pointless to you.
It isn’t about the information!
Women, this is why he seems frustrated.
He doesn’t understand why you need to tell him about Susan’s aunt when he asked you what Joe does for a living!
The point is this.
Every one of us has room to grow in the area of communication.
Examples of difficulties in communication abound.
Let me give you a classic example from Scripture.
Go to John 2:1-5.
John 2:1-5
Mary comes to Jesus.
“They don’t have anymore wine.”
Jesus “My time hasn’t come yet.”
Mary speaks cryptically and Jesus answers the actual issue.
This brings us to our first rule of communication.
Say What You Mean – Matthew 4:18-22
Go get milk.
That’s what she said.
What she means is go get THE milk.
You know, the one we ALWAYS get.
But… That’s not what she said.
He goes to the store and gets the first milk he sees.
The problem is, it’s not THE milk they ALWAYS get.
It also happens to be the milk his mom always gets.
You know where this is going.
Tempting to think she is in the wrong.
If she would have said, he would have gotten it.
However, he could also ask.
Observe what Jesus did
In the passage we just read, Jesus does 3 things.
Set expectations
– When we communicate well, when we say what we mean, it sets expectations.
Look at what Jesus does here.
1 - Follow me.
This is about direction.
They will go where He goes.
2 - Fish for men.
This is about purpose.
They will reach out to men.
Jesus communicates to them His expectations.
They know exactly what He wants of them!
He wants them to follow and fish.
A lot of damage is done to relationships when we have uncommunicated and unrealistic expectations.
For example:
Mind reading
He should just know what I want.
If he loved me, he would know.
We cannot read minds.
Contrary to popular opinion, we men do this too.
I’m going to the store.
What we mean is, if there is something you want or need, now is the time to tell me.
Women can’t read minds either.
Parents - Don’t stay out too late.
This is quite possibly the most anxiety inducing phrase you could possibly utter.
Your child has no idea what this means.
If you have a time in mind, say it.
If you don’t, say come home whenever you want.
Say what you mean.
Don’t get mad if they come home later than the arbitrary time you had.
Parents - Define the relationship.
With adult children clearly communicate.
If you want them to reach out weekly, tell them.
But remember they are adults, and they don’t have to.
Chances are, you have more time than they do.
If you want to hear from them, call them.
Set expectations.
They need to know what you want, don’t leave them guessing.
However, because they are adults, leave them the freedom to be their own family.
Holidays – The visitor who won’t leave.
If have a time you want people to leave, say it.
Lead off with this!
People cannot stay past their welcome if you give them a time to leave.
When the time arrives, tell them it’s time to go.
you have already set the expectations.
Friendships - Needy vs. Unconcerned
There is a term in use nowadays, ghosting.
Ghosting is when you just don’t call or respond to someone, you act like they are a ghost.
Mature adults don’t ghost.
We communicate.
If someone is overly needy and you don’t have time for them, kindly and clearly communicate that.
If someone never reaches out to you, and you feel like they don’t care, talk to them about it.
Uncommunicated expectations always lead to frustration.
Establish responsibility
– Jesus is leading, they are following.
Jesus is going to make them fishers of men.
Jesus is in charge of their direction and their training.
The disciples are responsible to follow Him and to learn from Him.
They know what He is going to do and what they are responsible for.
When we do not know our responsibility we will always fail to meet it.
Examples:
Clean your room
If you want your kid to clean their room.
Tell them that.
Don’t hint, don’t suggest, communicate.
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