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This is a proverb penned by the King Solomon and procured by Hezekiah, then recorded for further use!

As christians we claim to be people who hate division and love peace.

We strive for peace.

Our Bible is full of passages like

Romans 14:19 “19 Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.”

Hebrews 12:14 “14 Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord:”

Matthew 5:9 “9 Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.”

We love peace!…

We Love peace we seek it but lets be honest

It’s hard.

Right?

Conflict seems unavoidable

That guy…

her...

that road rage

did they really just...

that colleague

What ever it may be we can find our selves in conflict event when we seek to avoid it.

Stuff just happens.

Or maybe we know we are in conflict and are looking for a way to kill it?

We just don’t know what to say ?

Or man they’re so difficult

That’s ok.

It is in Proverbs 25 we can find powerful principals for peace in our problematic and personal problems!

Aren’t you happy that we serve the God of peace!

He goes by Jehovahshalom

Judges 6:24 “24 Then Gideon built an altar there unto the Lord, and called it Jehovah-shalom:

Prince of peace- Is 9:6 “6 For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: And the government shall be upon his shoulder: And his name shall be called Wonderful, Counseller, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.”

WE CAN HAVE PEACE in our relationships!

Patience is important

Proverbs 25:8 “8 Go not forth hastily to strive, Lest thou know not what to do in the end thereof, When thy neighbour hath put thee to shame.”

Don’t rush into conflict

Don’t lose your cool

Don’t jump to conclusions

hear the whole story

Learn to mull it over

think first

Many good people have gotten themselves in trouble because they refuse(or forget) to process and pray.

Moses lost his temper and struck a stone and it cost him a blessing

David almost killed a man when he lost his temper in 2 Samuel

Remember when David was quick to issue a judgment to Nathan and it was actually about him self

Im not saying anger is wrong either

Eph 4:26 “26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:”

Jesus was angry at times

I am saying that a blown temper and unbridled anger are not conducive to peace making

Pro 14:17 “17 He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: And a man of wicked devices is hated.”

Blowing up is foolish

Proverbs 15:18 “18 A wrathful man stirreth up strife: But he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.”

It makes the situation worse

Proverbs 18:13 “13 He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, It is folly and shame unto him.”

To respond in haste is shameful

Proverbs 29:20 “20 Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words?

There is more hope of a fool than of him.”

Chill, to not is foolish

James 1:19 “19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:”

Pray,Process, and be patient before engaging in conflict

Keep conflict private

Prov 25:9-10 “9 Debate thy cause with thy neighbour himself; And discover not a secret to another: 10 Lest he that heareth it put thee to shame, And thine infamy turn not away.”

Conflict is best handled directly

passive aggressive and indirectly are unwise ways to communicate

In regards to an issue the circle of knowledge should only be as big as the circle of need

Don’t air out mess

i.e. maybe delete that post

maybe take of that carbon copy on that email

stop talking about it?

Jesus explains that conflict is best handled person to person

Matthew 18:15 “15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.”

alone too

Go privately

Proverbs 17:9 “9 He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; But he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends.”

If you really care about the person and preserving the relationship you’d handle the conflict privately

Proverbs 10:12 “12 Hatred stirreth up strifes: But love covereth all sins.”

So many relationships would be saved and problems avoided if we’d just go to that person and talk.

NOT about them but to them

Speak precariously

Proverbs 25:11-13 “11 A word fitly spoken Is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.

12 As an earring of gold, and an ornament of fine gold, So is a wise reprover upon an obedient ear.

13 As the cold of snow in the time of harvest, So is a faithful messenger to them that send him: For he refresheth the soul of his masters.”

We need to know the power of our words!

We’ve got life and death in our tongue

Prov 18:21 “21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue: And they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”

The tongue is powerful

Proverbs 25:18 “18 A man that beareth false witness against his neighbour Is a maul, and a sword, and a sharp arrow.”

It can even be a weapon

It can also heal

You can actually kill the “beef” entirely with the right words!

Proverbs 15:23 “23 A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: And a word spoken in due season, how good is it!”

Let’s pray for the right words

For the Persons benefit

Proverbs 25:21-22 “21 If thine enemy be hungry, give him bread to eat; And if he be thirsty, give him water to drink: 22 For thou shalt heap coals of fire upon his head, And the Lord shall reward thee.”

We should seek their best

Love them

serve them

Jesus said- Matthew 5:44 “44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;”

We may say:

“they hurt me so bad...”

“they did this...”

“But they have yet to...”

They just don’t deserve my mercy

Friend we didn’t deserve God’s mercy