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Under Our Roof:
Under Our Roof:
A Spirit-Filled Wife
A Spirit-Filled Wife
21 and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ.
22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.
24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.
33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.
Intro Main Idea: We have a distorted and unbiblical view of submission. Submission is not less than or a servant to. Submission is a beautiful display of who Christ is and what He calls each of us to. Proper view of biblical submission is exemplified through and by Jesus.
Intro Main Idea: We have a distorted and unbiblical view of submission. Submission is not less than or a servant to. Submission is a beautiful display of who Christ is and what He calls each of us to. Proper view of biblical submission is exemplified through and by Jesus.
Not about value, but order!
5 Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus,
6 who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped,
7 but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men.
8 Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.
9 For this reason also, God highly exalted Him, and bestowed on Him the name which is above every name,
Luke 2:51 Just submitted to His earthly parents.
51 And He went down with them and came to Nazareth, and He continued in subjection to them; and His mother treasured all these things in her heart.
“Let the wife make her husband glad to come home everyday, and let the husband make his wife sorry to see him leave everyday.”
-Martin Luther
The way a husband leads can make submission a joy or make submission feel like a job.
“It is true that the number one reason that relationships of all kinds go bad is neglect. Here is the structure of every relationship this side of eternity: a flawed person in relationship to a flawed person, in a fallen world, but with a faithful God. Since it is a flawed person in relationship to a flawed person, if you are in a relationship, you simply cannot let that relationship coast and expect that it will be okay.”
-Paul David Tripp
Negligence equals deterioration
1. A spirit-filled wife glorifies GOD through SUBMISSION. (22) (To Christ and His word first then to your husband)
1. A spirit-filled wife glorifies GOD through SUBMISSION. (22) (To Christ and His word first then to your husband)
Result: God is pleased through her obedience.
22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
Main Point: Beyond the mutual submission for each of us, there is a martial submission in the home. Wives must submit and the men must lead.
Main Point: Beyond the mutual submission for each of us, there is a martial submission in the home. Wives must submit and the men must lead.
Submission starts with attitude/mental/think (How she thinks about husband)
Submission and leadership are God-given positions, that are for the good of the family.
18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”
16 To the woman He said,
“I will greatly multiply
Your pain in childbirth,
In pain you will bring forth children;
Yet your desire will be for your husband,
And he will rule over you.”
Illustration: Ronald Reagan, everyone would stand, the people voted, about position
The way in which a wife submits to her husband is a direct reflection of how she submits to God.
Some Christian wives will salute the submission of the church to Jesus, while rejecting the submission of themselves to their husband.
A wife will never submit to her husband publicly if she isn’t submitted to her husband privately.
Why is submission so hard for some women? Because only they have seen their husbands at their absolute worst. Remember, Jesus saw you at your absolute worst, but still submitted Himself to the Cross.
2. A spirit-filled wife blesses her family through sacrifice. (23-24) (Your desires to Christ Word for your husband)
2. A spirit-filled wife blesses her family through sacrifice. (23-24) (Your desires to Christ Word for your husband)
Result: Family is edified through her sacrifice.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.
24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.
Main Point: The wife’s sacrificial submission to the husband’s guidance is a light and the cornerstone of a spirit-filled family. Submission is sacrificial because it goes against the natural flow of the fall. The wife’s obedience in this area will be a blessing to her family and will edify them all.
Main Point: The wife’s sacrificial submission to the husband’s guidance is a light and the cornerstone of a spirit-filled family. Submission is sacrificial because it goes against the natural flow of the fall. The wife’s obedience in this area will be a blessing to her family and will edify them all.
Illustration: Martin Luther - living in filth - changed his home and health - encouraged his hobbies - lute “A Mighty Fortress Is Our God”
Head, HEART, hands - joy/pleasure/happiness/fulfillment
10 An excellent wife, who can find?
For her worth is far above jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
A married woman’s first ministry is to her husband, then to her children, and then to other things in the church. Women become miserable when these get out of order!
Some say children make a rich woman poor. Actually children make a poor woman rich. A rich mother can’t take her house or money to heaven, but a Godly mother is taking her children.
A mother’s responsibility is to create a home where her children can easily love and follow Jesus.
3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good,
4 so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
3. A spirit-filled wife encourages her husband through respect. (33) (Your obedience to God will encourage your husband to lead)
3. A spirit-filled wife encourages her husband through respect. (33) (Your obedience to God will encourage your husband to lead)
Result: Husband is encouraged through her respect.
33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.
Main Point: A husband is fueled, focused and fearless when his wife respects him and stands behind him. A husband feels tremendous strength when his wife believes in him and supports him.
Main Point: A husband is fueled, focused and fearless when his wife respects him and stands behind him. A husband feels tremendous strength when his wife believes in him and supports him.
Head, Heart, HANDS - practical/actions/DEFER
Are you actions deferring to your husband or defeating his position?
Wives have a ministry to their husbands
You can’t pray/minister to your husband if you are focused on his flaws
“Be careful not to miss your MINISTRY because of your MISERY.”
-Tony Evans
12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.
Your spouse is not your enemy. However, if you neglect your greatest blessing it can be a tremendous burden.
Satan’s most consistent attack is on the FAMILY.
“The greatest source of SECURITY our children have in this world is a God-honoring, Christ-centered MARRIAGE between their parents.”
-Voddie Baucham