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Whose Puppet Are You?
If you’ll pull out your Bible and turn to the book of Proverbs.
We’re in a series called No More Drama – on healthy relationships.
I want us to look this weekend at who’s pushing your buttons.
One of the amazing things about the drama makers in your life is how quickly they can flip you from being happy to mad.
Have you noticed this?
You could be going through a typical day and you’ve actually had a pretty good day.
You’re in a good mood, the birds are singing, the flowers are blooming.
You feel great.
Then this drama maker walks into your life and in about 1.2 seconds all of a sudden you’re frustrated and mad and upset.
They can flip you so fast.
They know how to push your buttons.
So if we’re going to deal with healthy relationships we’ve got to learn how to deal with anger.
How it shows up.
How to deal with it in our own lives.
And how to diffuse it in the lives of others, particularly the crazy makers who push your buttons.
Let me give you some facts about anger that I found out.
The average woman loses her temper three times a week.
The average man six times a week.
Women get angry more often at people.
Men get angry more often at things – computers, mechanical problems, things like that.
Women are more verbal with their anger; men are more physical with their anger.
We know that.
This was interesting: Single adults express anger twice as often as married adults.
I wouldn’t have known that.
The place you’re most likely to express anger is home, because we get angry more often, more intensely at those we love than strangers.
The people who make you the most angry are those you love the most, because they have the greatest potential to hurt you or to offend you or to irritate you or to frustrate you.
Dr. S. I. McMillen has identified 51 illnesses that can be directly attributed or caused by anger.
Fifty-one illnesses!
In fact, proctologists now know that anger can literally create a pain in the rear.
Anger is an evidence of love.
In fact, the only reason you are able to get angry is because you are made in God’s image, and the Bible says God gets angry.
God has emotions, too, you know.
That’s why you’re an emotional person.
In fact, 375 times in the Bible it says God got angry, or Jesus got angry, or the Holy Spirit got angry.
There are some things that are definitely wrong and you ought to be angry about them.
Righteous anger versus unrighteous anger...
There’s a righteous anger and there’s unrighteous anger.
There’s a right way and a wrong way.
There’s an appropriate way and there’s an inappropriate way.
Selfish anger is sinful.
Self-centered anger is sinful.
Uncontrolled anger is sinful.
But the Bible says that anger sometimes is an appropriate response.
Sometimes it’s helpful.
But most of the time in our lives it’s harmful.
Harmful anger...
Let me show you a few verses out of the book of Proverbs.
Do you realize when you say, you make me so mad, you are admitting at that point those people are controlling your life.
You are admitting that they are stronger than you, that you are weak.
When you say, “You make me…” In other words, you have an ability to control my emotions.
That’s what you’re admitting.
You are defenseless.
You are without a wall, open to attack.
It’s wise to just let it roll off your back.
A wise person stays calm when insulted.
In other words, it’s more important to be in control of your own emotions than to be the President of the United States or an outstanding entrepreneur.
The fact is, anger is a learned response.
You learned it from other people.
They may be bad examples, but you learned it from others.
You learned it from television, you learned it from movies, you learned it from your parents, from other people in your life.
The good news is since it’s learned it can be unlearned.
You can learn appropriate ways to deal with your anger.
Todays’ goals...
Understand the different ways anger shows up.
Show biblical principles on how to disarm drama makers in your life.
Four anger types include...
1. Loose cannons
Loose cannons are people who just let you have it!
They mow you down.
There’s no doubt that they’re mad.
They’re very expressive.
They cuss, they yell, they throw things, they hit, they let it fly.
These people are the exploders.
They’re like walking time bombs.
They just kind of explode all over you.
They just let ’er rip.
They let it fly.
In the Bible the example of this first kind of anger, the exploder, would be Cain.
Circle the word “attacked.”
This is the response of the first form of anger.
The attacker.
The loose cannons.
This response is so obvious the people who have this type of anger immediately regret it.
They regret the things they’ve said.
They regret the things they’ve done.
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Quiet stormers
The second kind of anger, besides the loose cannon, is what I call the quiet stormers.
The quiet stormers is the exact opposite.
They don’t blow up; they clam up.
They don’t get violent; they get silent.
And they hold it in and they live in denial and they masquerade and they pretend.
And they always refuse to admit it when they’re angry.
(“I can see you’re angry, honey.”
No, I’m not.
“Yes, you are.”
No, I’m not.
“You’re angry.”
I am not angry.)
You’re angry.
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